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背景导入：本文介绍了哪些行为会影响伴侣之间的关系。第一个行为是手机优先：我们处在一个电子信息化的时代，手机几乎是生活中必不可少的物品，但对手机的高度依赖会影响我们和伴侣之间的关系。第二个行为是逾越界限：替你的伴侣作决定会引发矛盾冲突，因为这种行为间接反映出你对伴侣的不尊重以及对其个人能力的怀疑。
Even when your partner is your top priority①， sometimes he or she might not feel that way if you're guilty of② any of these common habits. Here, relationship experts share what are the top behaviours that can damage your relationship.
Making your cellphone the top priority
We live in a culture where we're constantly checking our cellphones. But, this obsession③ comes at a cost, and the casualty of a technology obsession can be your personal relationship. “The most prevalent④ habit that sinks relationships is keeping your cellphone on, and looking at it every time it makes a noise while you're with your partner，” says Carole Lieberman MD, a psychiatrist in Beverly Hills, California. “Answering your phone is even worse than just looking at text messages or e-mails, and this tells your partner that they are not as important as whoever else is trying to reach you.” Dr Lieberman says a solution is to turn off your phone when you're having dinner, or doing anything else, because your partner expects your full attention. Make sure you know the subtle⑤ signs of a toxic⑥ relationship.
Overstepping⑦ social boundaries
Speaking on behalf of your partner can create a sense of resentment⑧. This behaviour can be very intrusive (烦扰的), because making decisions for your partner can be disrespectful⑨ and impede (妨碍) a person's sense of self, says an article in Psychology Today. “Without noticing it, we may be controlling towards our partner, acting in a manner that is disrespectful to the other person's sense of self. When this happens, it not only hurts our partner and his or her feelings for us but it undermines (逐渐削弱) our strength and feelings for our partner，” the article says.
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①priority n. 优先
②be guilty of 有……过错/罪
③obsession n. 痴迷；着魔
④prevalent adj. 普遍存在的；流行的
⑤subtle adj. 微妙的
⑥toxic adj. 有毒的；有害的
⑦overstep v. (行为)越轨，过分，出格
⑧resentment n. 愤恨；不满
⑨disrespectful adj. 不尊重的；无礼的
