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June 18 is the birthday of my late sister, Tanya. She would have been 49 years old this year, but that's increasingly difficult for me to imagine. She is frozen in time at 37.
Tanya died more than a decade ago and the wound left by her loss has healed into a scar (疤痕). It's a big scar. You can't know me for very long without discovering my scar. Trust me; if you haven't found it on your own, I will point it out to you. I want you all to know that she existed, and that she mattered.
When we first lose a loved one, we ask, “How will I live without you?” and wounds are open and weeping. We don't know how we'll cope with the pain. But then the wounds form scars, and we learn to live with our new skins.
“How can I remember you?” we ask.
So many people are hesitant to talk about my sister. It is as though mentioning her will remind me that she is dead, and upset my balance when I am so stable and happy. But I never forget my sister, not for a moment.
And so I love it when people mention Tanya's name. Occasionally, I come across one of her friends, and they casually bring up a memory, and it is like a gift.
So if you have friends who have lost loved ones, please don't avoid talking about their loved one. You won't remind them of their loss, because it is always there. They haven't forgotten their scar. They just don't point it out to you.
Instead, try to reassure (使安心) them their loved one is not forgotten. Ask questions about the deceased (逝去的）person's life. Keep them alive in the only way you can after a person is gone, with your words and your memories.
I love hearing from friends on my sister's birthday, It makes her present, despite her absence. It reminds us all that she was here. She walked this earth. She was loved, and she mattered. And on June 18,I embrace (欣然接受) my scar.
1. What does “it” in paragraph 2 refer to?
A. The death of the author's sister.
B. The author's sister's birthday.
C. The “scar" in the author's heart.
D. The author's love for her sister.
2. How does the author feel when people mention her sister?
A. She becomes upset about it.
B. She worries that she must defend her sister.
C. She doesn't know how to deal with it.
D. She is happy to be reminded of her sister.
3. What does the author advise us to do when talking to those who lost loved ones?
A. Avoid talking about the person who died.
B. Keep them company as long as you can.
C. Help them to forget their painful scars.
D. Talk with them about the person who died.
【答案】1. C 2. D 3. D
【解析】
【分析】本文是一篇记叙文。文章讲述了作者失去妹妹后，心上留下一个很深的伤疤并以此建议我们在与失去亲人的人交谈时应该和他们谈谈那个死去的人。
【1题详解】
指代猜测题。根据第二段“Tanya died more than a decade ago and the wound left by her loss has healed into a scar (疤痕). It's a big scar. You can't know me for very long without discovering my scar.”（坦尼娅十多年前去世了，她去世给我留下的伤口已经愈合成一道疤痕。这是一个大伤疤。你不可能认识我很长时间而不发现我的伤疤。）可猜测，第二段中的“it”指的是作者妹妹去世这件事给作者造成的心中的“伤疤”。故选C。
【2题详解】
细节理解题。根据第六段“And so I love it when people mention Tanya's name.”（所以我喜欢人们提到坦尼娅的名字。）可知，作者很喜欢人们提到妹妹，换句话说，当人们提到她的妹妹时，作者很高兴她的妹妹被提及。故选D。
【3题详解】
细节理解题。根据倒数第三段“So if you have friends who have lost loved ones, please don't avoid talking about their loved one. You won't remind them of their loss, because it is always there.”（所以，如果你有朋友失去了亲人，请不要回避谈论他们的亲人。你不会让他们想起失去，因为失去一直都在。）可知，作者建议我们在与失去亲人的人交谈时，不要回避谈论他们的亲人，而是应该和他们谈谈那个死去的人。故选D。
