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Friends should always be honest with you, right? So when they lie, it can be really hard to take.But a friend who lies isn't always trying to hurt you. Why does this happen?
They want to protect your feelings.
One of the biggest reasons friends lie is simply to avoid hurting your feelings.
Some people don't understand the difference between being gently honest with a friend and being so straightforward that they leave a verbal wound.They choose to avoid these in the form of a lie.
What you can do: Encourage your friends to be straight with you. No matter what their answer is, let them know you value it. If you get angry with them, they won't feel comfortable when telling you the truth again.
They feel embarrassed.
Sometimes friends will lie about things in their life because they are too embarrassed to admit the truth. Maybe they are going through a rough time and they just don't want you to know about it.
What you can do: Avoid trying to badger your friend to tell you what's wrong.Instead, make it clear that you are there for them when they are ready to talk.
They just don't want an argument with you.
Perhaps your friends know that if they tell you the truth, you'll get angry with them. Avoiding conflict is not always healthy for a friendship because it allows problems to grow over time.If you have a bad temper (脾气), your friends might try and avoid getting into an argument with you and instead just tell you what you want to hear.
What you can do: Make sure that if a friend tells you something unpleasant, you don't overreact. Consider what's being said and why your friend is telling you this. If you do end up arguing, do it in a respectable way.
【语篇解读】 本文语篇类型是说明文，主题语境是做人与做事。主要介绍了朋友说谎的原因以及应对措施。
1．Why do friends lie according to the text?
A．Because the truth hurts.
B．Because they feel unconfident.
C．Because it is hard to make friends.
D．Because they avoid losing your friendship.
A [细节理解题。根据第一段中的“But a friend who lies isn't always trying to hurt you”及文中小标题可知，有时朋友说谎并不是意在伤害对方，恰恰是因为讲真话伤人，为了不伤害对方，不让自己难堪，或是为了避免冲突才说谎。]
2．What are you advised to do when your friends lie to you?
A．Let it go.
B．Handle it respectably.
C．Blame them for it.
D．Break up with them.
B [推理判断题。根据文中小标题下方的“What you can do”部分可知，当我们发现朋友撒谎的时候，我们应该以一种体面的方式去处理，这样可以避免冲突，进而维护了与朋友的关系。]
3．Which of the following can replace the underlined word “badger” in Para.6?
A．Warn. B．Allow.
C．Persuade. D．Teach.
C [词义猜测题。根据上下文语境可知，作者建议不要试图劝朋友告诉你怎么了，而是要让朋友明白他们随时都可以向你敞开心扉。]
4．What would be the best title for the text?
A．Why Your Friends Lie to You?
B．Why You Should Tell the Truth?
C．How You Make Friends With Others?
D．How You Improve Your Friendships?
A [标题归纳题。根据第一段中的“But a friend who lies isn't always trying to hurt you.Why does this happen？”和文中的小标题可知，文章主要分析了朋友撒谎并非意在伤害对方的原因，故A项做标题最合适。]
